A short story about my first mustang;
He arrived as a rescue after weeks of emails and delays, in a small trailer, wearing a ratty halter, peering through the back slats of the truck. I admit it was love at first sight for me, with that long white forelock hanging over his pale spotted face. I had already been told that he couldn’t be lead and had prepared a chute of sorts around the back of our large barn, all the way to the lower far side where an old pole barn had been set up for him. I used his own instincts against him, building the chute from rope and ribbons blowing in the breeze, many supported by tree limbs stuck into the ground as fake trees. He seemed so calm in the back that I asked if I could try and lead him, the woman chuckled and said ‘sure, go ahead’. I hitched the lead over the trailer door to his halter while he stared at me with inscrutable silence. The back was dropped and OUT! he shot, tearing the lead from my hands and going down the hill through my chute. Even if the lead had failed, the chute worked. He followed it at a gallop, probably seeking an opening through to the green pastures beyond, but as he curved around he suddenly found himself headed into the pole barn. He hesitated, but a little pressure from my flailing ropes following him did the trick, and I had him safely in a 50 foot square corral.
Getting the lead off was the next challenge as he galloped around, but I gathered the ends of the lead, didn’t look him in the eye, directed his energy a bit, and slowly reeled him in. He was shaking, clearly upset. I had been told that some owner, three owners ago, had him somewhat tamed to lead and tack up, so I counted a little on his past, and on just staying calm, until I could get close enough to get the lead off the halter. Trembling, he allowed this, and unclipped he shot off again. At least for now he was safe and in a workable place.
He came to me through a referral because I had taken in another rescue, and his owner couldn’t manage to tame him. She was the third that had tried, his fourth owner overall unless you count BLM, who took him off the plains as a three year old stallion, which would make five owners before me. I was the sixth (and what combination of ignorance and enthusiasm made me believe that I could tame him, I will never know!). The man who originally ‘adopted’ him from BLM did so in order to breed him, because altho’ he is very short, he is an exceedingly beautiful speckled white boy, with a handsome roman nose, strong neck and legs, thick white mane and tail, and deep dark eyes. He was trucked across the country to be a mustang stud. Alas, his first round of foals didn’t ‘meet expectation’, so he was gelded at four years old, and passed along. A late gelding like this does something to a horse, and I suspect that he will always consider himself a stallion. The man who took him next worked for four years to touch him, halter him, saddle him, but thought he was too wild to ride. And his wife was afraid of him. So “Thunder”, as he was called then, was passed along to someone new. That next owner only had him about six months, declared him too afraid of everything, and gave him to someone else. The next owner was a repeat, saying that he didn’t have a mean bone in his body but was afraid of everything. He was being kept in a stall with a small turnout, alone, and she said that he had ‘reverted’ to wild. She changed his name to ‘Whisper’ and then gave him away, to me. Which is how I came to be the sixth owner of an untamed 9 year old mustang gelding.
Over the next few days in the pole barn, it became clear that he wasn’t afraid of everything, but being a wild stallion by birth, he was afraid of noises and confinement that would be reasonable to fear in the wild. He was very very alert, with an acute sense of smell, and very experienced in the ways of humans. He was also sane and smart. No plan or trick would work on him. Even the thought or glance to a rope or gate would be spotted and reacted to. He also, however, had no meanness, no sneakiness, no tricks himself. He behaved honorably. I learned that if I treated him with a quietness and a respect, he relaxed a little. He could hold his head up. I took his halter off soon after I could, probably the first time in months that he had his head free, and he was very grateful. But he also didn’t want it back! He was not interested in being tamed.
There is a basic tenant of some natural horsemanship which rings deeply when you think it through, and that is, ‘Every creature has the God given right to say No’. Most horses, in their domestic lives, aren’t given this opportunity. I have observed that these horses, after years of being told what to do, when given the option of saying No, say NO loud and clear. They didn’t choose to be tamed and so they say no, thank you (if they are polite), and head for the hills. These horses then need to come full circle to the concept of a willing partnership. Building an mutual bond, having the horse willing to say Yes, takes some time, some patience, as you may imagine, and some direction to see the idea at all. Not all of my rescue horses make it to saying yes, they were pushed too far.
Such was the path with Whisper, who gratefully accepted the offer to say No and said No. In the confines of the pole barn, however, he realized that No didn’t get him very far, and after some coaxing over a few days, allowed me to touch him, then brush him (not the tail!), and finally to put the halter back on. He tolerated all of this while holding his breath and staring bug eyed at me, his whole body a taut rubber band ready to shoot off. It seemed pretty clear that he would never relax in confinement and by himself. Horses are herd animals and he needed a herd. I found him to be very sensitive to leading, so unwilling to touch and have conflict that he could be lead with two fingers. So I decided to risk taking him to the field with my small herd. This meant haltering and leading him out of the gate, around that big barn where we came in the first day, up in front of the farm, and down the road to the 15 acre field, where he didn’t even know other horses waited. This may sound like just a walk, but it was a big deal to me, I was walking with a wild horse. He was walking willingly with me. We walked together quietly, stopping often to observe the surroundings, to have a bit of carrot, to keep it all calm. When almost there, we came across a string in the grass, marking a future fence, and he wouldn’t step over it. I tried coaxing but he wouldn’t do it. We circled around to the far side and were going at a nice clip before he realized he had walked over it there! So we got to the horse field with no one in site and walked in the gate, into the huge green pasture. I slipped the halter off his face and just lead him around around his neck, cutting across the field towards the run in shed where the others were. Then we saw them, three horses staring down at us from on the hillside. Immediately I saw the wild mustang that Whisper was, the fierce leader, neck arched, proud head, elegant line through his extended stance, as he flared his nostrils and breathed the scent of the others. I let the rope fall off his neck and said Go on now, and he did, trotting swiftly to meet his new band.
Over the next several weeks I saw little of him, which was his choice (that No thing again) and as he settled in and took over the herd. One of my rescue thoroughbred mares became his lead mare and the others sorted out a new pecking order. He is a great leader and he is fearless. He is the first to hear someone coming and is always on alert. All of the horses are getting more exercise as he keeps them moving, and when my neighbor added her horses to graze in the big field, the band grew larger. Throughout this time I continued to halter and work with the other horses. He always watched from a short distance, suspicious why the others would come to me. If there was any conflict he was gone. But he became curious; slowly I worked back to being near him, then petting his nose on occasion. I became the carrot fairy, shameless bribery yes, but I needed to change this mustangs opinion of humans! There were several times I ended up pursuing him in vain, and had to remember to have patience, and let him come to me. In the last few weeks, though, he has begun responding, coming when I call him, staying long after the carrots are gone. Now he lets me pet him down his whole side, his feet, and bring his head around and into my chest, a huge gesture of trust. He discovered he likes a good scratch when he is at liberty. He knows that he can leave so it is becoming his choice to stay. Two days ago, I slipped the halter on him, and off, three times. No big deal. If learning is on a scale of one to ten, they say that one to two is the most important step. Whisper, after being granted again his freedom and asked to be a partner, seems to think that it might not be so bad. He is beginning the journey to saying Yes.